How to Handle Bossy People (Especially Those Who Aren't Even Your Boss)

Among the many types of "difficult" people you will inevitably face in your life
are the bossy ones. These are people who, for no other reason than they want to,
tell you what you should be doing with your life, how you should be doing it,
and -- everyone's favorite -- what you shouldn't have done already.

The thing about bossy people, though, is that they think they're doing you a
favor. Your mother, for instance, simply must tell you to wash your hands (even
though you're nearly 40 years old) because she can't bear to let you walk around
with germs on them. Your spouse, meanwhile, may try to boss you around in the
backyard because he or she is sure you'll pull out the tomato plant instead of
the milkweed. The potential catastrophes are simply too great to not lend these
pearls of wisdom.

To the recipient, of course, being bossed around can be downright maddening,
particularly when it's coming from someone who is probably better off minding
their own business. However, you don't have to let bossy people get the better
of you.

How to Handle Bossy People (in a Kind and Healthy Way)

Because nobody likes being bossed around or controlled, you may be tempted to
confront the bossy person in an accusatory way, which will surely escalate the
situation and leave you with nothing but more strife. So the next time you find
yourself with a bossy, controlling person, use these tips to handle the
situation with eloquence, class, and a positive outcome for you.

1. Confront the person in an appreciative way. You certainly should address a
bossy person's offensive behavior, but you must do so gently. Start out by
showing your appreciation, then stating that you're happy doing things your own
way. (Try, "I appreciate that you're trying to help me do the dishes more
effectively, but I prefer to use the sponge, not the dish rag.")

2. Release your frustrations. Being bossed around can bring up many negative
feelings, including anger, frustration, anxiety, and even a loss of self-esteem.
The last thing you want to do is internalize these feelings and create an
unnecessary source of stress in your life. The Sedona Method is an ideal tool
you can use to release these negative emotions simply, quickly, and for good.

3. Stand your ground. While realizing that most bossy people do have good
intentions, you should make it clear to him or her that you have no intention of
changing your behaviors. It may be that the person continues to try and control
you, but it's also possible that, upon seeing your confidence, he or she will
eventually back down and leave you be. Again, this should be done in a kind, not
accusatory, way. (Such as, "Mom, I do so many things around the house the way
you do, but when it comes to making salad, I like to cut the tomatoes in
quarters, not slices.") 

4. Give them a taste of their own medicine. Sometimes bossy people may not
realize how offensive their remarks can be... until they experience it
themselves. Next time someone tries bossing you around, experiment with being
bossy in return. It may just help to curb the behavior altogether. For instance,
if a bossy friend tells you how to get your hair cut, tell them your opinion
about how they should be cutting theirs. Just be careful not to go overboard
with this and become a bossy person yourself!

Hale Dwoskin

How to become Super Motivated!

If your get-up and go has gotten up and gone, then it's time to start stirring up those positive vibes...

It's a well-known fact that positive-minded people are more likely to achieve
their life's goals. When you're upbeat, everything looks different; your day is
brighter and full of potential. What's more, opportunities more readily come
your way, and you're able to face challenges with a sense of ease. In fact,
being in an optimistic frame of mind can help you gain success and greater
levels of happiness.



However, not everyone finds it easy to be super-positive. It requires a change
in perspective and focused intentions to break away from redundant beliefs and
negativity, but once you start changing your outlook, you'll feel motivated,
energized, and empowered.

To become super-positive so that you can achieve your goals and enjoy a
fulfilling life, try the following:

1. When you get up in the morning, don't allow any negative thoughts to surface
-- no matter your situation or circumstances. Stretch, breathe-in, and believe
that you can make good things happen. Affirm to yourself, "I am happy and
positive, and I'm going to have a wonderful day." Believe it!

2. Have your own mantra to help you achieve your goals -- it can be anything
relevant to your needs and ambitions, such as "I can do it!" or "I will
succeed!" If you're feeling slightly out of kilter, repeat your mantra, either
silently or out loud to yourself. Believe in the words. Trust in your mantra.
You really can achieve your goals.

3. Smile even if you're down and laugh at yourself and the world. Life is
wonderful and multi-faceted. Whatever the problem, a little bit of humor will
make everything seem easier to cope with. Besides, a little bit of laughter on a
daily basis is good for your health and well-being. When you laugh, your
internal organs gain a workout, and laughter drives fresh oxygen around your
body. So, take some time out to see the funny side of your world. Often, it's
never as bad as you think. Seek out the positive in every situation.

4. Reflect on all your achievements so far. You've come further than you think!
Make a list of what you have gained in your life. Don't just notch up the career
or money successes. Think about the experiences that you have accumulated and
the personal qualities that you have acquired. By focusing on these
achievements, it will boost your self-esteem.

5. Remind yourself about what you're trying to achieve. Are your goals still
relevant? Sometimes, we have to reassess our direction because things change in
our lives... we change too. What you once wanted and would give anything for
might not be what you really want now. When you're on the wrong path, you'll
have a vague sense of being out of kilter with everything. Trust your inner
wisdom and intuition. Note how your current circumstances make you feel. Be
prepared to change your life or jump out of your current comfort zones. Once
you're on the right path, you'll start feeling more positive.

6. Walk out on a regular basis and get some fresh oxygen circulating through
your blood. Take a stroll through the park. Climb a mountain! Awake those
feel-good vibes. Regular exercise will enhance your mood and make you feel
super-positive.

7. Make sure your glass is always half-full rather than half-empty. To be
super-positive, you must think on the positive side of everything. Eliminate any
negative dialogue. Listen to your internal voice as well as your external one.
If you catch yourself saying or thinking something that is negative, stop,
rewind and replace those words with a positive statement. It takes practice,
time, and determination, but after a while, you'll start eliminating those pesky
negative vibes.

8. Create abundance in your life... believe in your ability to make things
happen. Your positive state of mind will act like a magnet by attracting
positive experiences. Focus on what you want; be optimistic and be more
abundant. You really can have the life you most desire!

9. Devote a bit of your time and energy to a good cause. If you're able, always
give something back! The world needs super-positive people like you to make it
even better than what it is. You can inject some of your positive energy into
charitable ventures or simply by showing your kindness on a daily basis.

10. Don't stress about the things you cannot change. Work on the things you can.
By being positive about life and focusing on the things that you can transform,
you'll discover a world full of opportunities and potential waiting for you to
explore.

Whether good or bad, you have choices in how you react to whatever comes your
way.

Why be miserable when you can smile? Why dwell on sadness when you can choose
happiness?

Life will always have its ups and downs, but if you focus on the positive and
become super-positive, you will experience greater happiness and contentment.

So, don't just sit around; make a decision to become that super-positive person
that you have always wanted to be and make sure you live an astounding life! 

~Karl Moore~